As a tutor, no longer the TEACHER, I still make myself part of the team - teacher, parent, child, and ME!  I speak with my team members often, seeing what I can do better and how they can support my efforts.  After a brief phone conversation concerning a 1st grade student, the teacher told me that my "hands-on activities in the home may be making it even harder for the student to sit quietly in the classroom."  Uhhhh.....!!!!  I am sorry??!!  Do you not get enough hours each day to force a VERY active, VERY inquisitive little boy into silence?  May I allow him to experience learning as learning should be experienced?  May I allow him to laugh and sing and be silly?  Just for 1 hour....then I swear he will sit quietly and finish the 2 hours of homework you sent home. 

Let us not forget what being a student is about - a true student of learning!